This thought just popped up in my mind that people make us feel so shit about things that aren’t even under our control to feel better about themselves. We go down this rabbit hole of overthinking and blaming ourselves when we couldn’t have done anything in the first place. And we in most cases didn’t need to, even if we could.
People pick on other people for being too short or too tall for instance. Like not even too short or too tall, even if you are a guy whose height is average, people would look down upon you like that’s a bad thing? You can’t even do anything to change your height and even if you could, why would you? I don’t think height defines who we are. And this was just an example. Now let’s move on to a bigger example right, people make you feel bad about your studies, your grades, your career choice, the car you drive, the house you live in, the place you go to work for, or just how you look. Just about everything. And sometimes it comes from your own family. There’s so much pressure on a child to improve their grades without realizing that maybe the child has some other skills and passions that he could pursue rather than just acing his maths exam. Or if someone takes arts/humanities as their subject going forward a lot of people just assume that they didn’t take science because they didn’t have the required percentage. Maybe I scored great marks, but arts was my passion. And even if I didn’t, even if you were right, so what? I did what I had to do. There’s nothing to feel bad about it. Similarly, an expensive car is a show of your status, and an expensive house is another portrayal of how rich you are. People flex it when they get placed in a big company, like say, Google, Apple, or Microsoft. Someone who got placed in a general company for a minimum salary shouldn’t be belittled just because he didn’t score the highest and failed to get into the best ivy league private college possible. He did what he could with whatever opportunity he had. We don’t know his life or what he goes through so who are we to get up in his face, make some snarky comments, flex our own status and make him feel bad when he’s just minding his own business and living his life?
It’s so ridiculous. So, I guess you guys get the point I am trying to get across. If someone is making you feel about your insecurities, your fears, your …whatever issue you have, or your financial background or whatever the fuck really, just ignore it and move on. I know it’s not easy, we are human, and when the world is against you, things get under your skin, but always, always have faith in yourself. Always tell yourself that you know what, we all have different lives, and I am trying the best I can in whatever I am doing right now, and no one else has the right to judge me because they haven’t lived my life. I don’t care who else is rich and happy and living their best life, I will just keep my focus on my own and always love myself and be my best friend instead of feeling bad about shit that isn’t even in my hand. At the end of the day, it’s just you vs you. You do you.