You can’t be nice

I know we are taught to be nice, respectful, and as honest as possible, that’s what defines a good human being right? All your morals, and ethics and shit like that. And I am not disregarding this; this is exactly what you should teach a child growing up, but once we grow up, we need to figure out the fact that the world is cruel. It’s not made for nice people. You can’t be completely nice without being taken advantage of. You will constantly face people who are trying to rip you off, who are trying to scam you, who are manipulating you, and the nicer you are at heart, the easier it becomes for them to have their way with you. There are certainly other nice people out there, just like you, but not all.

The world is an extremely cruel and unjust place. There’s so much corruption, politics, ego battles, manipulation, just all of it. Everyone is trying to bring you down to prop themselves up, either directly or indirectly. Even big companies like Facebook or Amazon, or google – everyone is exploiting you. They are using their algorithms to get into your psyche and find a way to keep you scrolling so that they can keep showing you more ads and make money. Similarly even in real life, if you are too innocent, people will charge extra money, or you might lose out on a business deal or find it hard to work under strenuous circumstances. Or maybe your friend is trying to make you feel bad about yourself by commenting on your looks, or flexing the fact that his dad has more money than you and he drives a better car, or like… just whatever the fuck, you get the point. The point is everyone is trying to bring you down for their own selfish benefits. And these are just examples of course. Examples like these are everywhere in daily life if you look for them.

So does it mean we should be a similar asshole? We should be condescending and conniving and try to scam other people just as they do to us? Not exactly. You don’t have to change your personality and become a horrible person. What you should do instead is be self-aware, be aware that not everyone is good, and if someone is trying to be good, there might be a catch. Don’t trust everyone. I am not asking you to become paranoid, but trust yourself more than you trust them, and also look out for any signs that someone might be manipulating/gaslighting/scamming you. And an easy way to identify these signs is kind of get in their head, and ask yourself “Why did he want this?”, “Why did he ask me to meet me there”, and “Why is he asking for money upfront”, these are again just examples, real-life will be much more complex, to say the least. Also, be smart. Go out and meet a bunch of people, when you socialize, you will be aware of various personalities, both good and bad kinds, and the more you socialize, the more information your brain will gather, so when you eventually come across someone who is genuinely trying to scam you, you can identify it and confront them.

In the end, I said you cannot be nice because being polite doesn’t work. People will be really insistent and talk you into shit that you didn’t want to do. You have to learn how to say no and stay away from them. You cannot let them have their way for the sake of being nice, be rude when you need to be, be very very rude if necessary, but stand your ground. Stop being extra nice to people who don’t deserve it cos trust me if you can’t stand firm, the world is going to exhaust you and burn you, and drain you to the ground. Hope this helps.

Published by Arkopaul Das

Hey there, I am Arkopaul Das, and welcome to my blog! I am a published writer of five novels, poet, content creator, editor, and Youtuber. Growing up, I always had thoughts and opinions about a lot of things, but no one to share them with. I resorted to writing my heart out and using it as a coping mechanism, and soon I fell in love with it. In this blog, you can have a glimpse of what goes on in my mind, you will find me ranting on different subjects, and hopefully, some of it will be relatable. Are you someone who is lost, lonely, or feeling like you are stuck in life? Cos then I am you - a guy figuring his shit out in life and trying to get somewhere with his creativity. This is me, exposing my raw, unabashed self. Also, please subscribe to my youtube channel THE PAULCAST.

9 thoughts on “You can’t be nice

  1. You may be right but I am not agree with you! All the people are not like that you have written! Does your mom, dad are like that! They are also in the part of society! And if you say about Amazon or Flipkart they are doing their business ! But you are right at some point that we shouldn’t do anything abnormal not too much good, not too much rude. Just be normal then everything will go smoothly. Thanks for sharing 🌹

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    1. I did mention that not everyone is like that but a lot of people will be like that. You can’t be always nice constantly especially to people trying to exploit you. And yes a lot of parents and their own family are like that, including my own.

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